I really don’t understand some people who like to torture themselves for no apparent reason.
First of all, choosing to fight with your friends, rather than trying to find a solution for your resentment. If you still see no other way than solving the problem, then, by all means, launch the silent treatment, but please respect other people. This would mean, do not show your resentment because your negative vibe would actually affect others. I mean, come on la.
If you are angry at someone else, why should other people suffer as well? This leads to another advice – don’t spread around your so-called pathetic story. Memorize this by heart - truth will prevail, so sooner or later, people will know who’s the victim. Remember, there are both sides of a story.
If you want to launch your silent treatment, do it wisely. By this, I mean, no showing around your bitter face. It makes your ‘enemy’ laugh because they know you’re the one who suffer, not them. So, by all means, pretend to be happy when in fact you’re not. Another thing you should remember is that when you spread around the words, you get dosa for free. Do you know not the term? Seriously? It is called ‘mengumpat’. Go and google the term.
I really don’t understand the need of blaming people for your mistakes. I do believe you don’t see it as your mistake. Well, young lady. Let me enlighten you with this. It came to me as an horror when I read your blog when you stated you cannot do your revision because your friend made so much noise. Not only that, your friend’s attitude continued to boggle you and further demotivate you to studies. Let me ask you a question, have you addressed this issue before bursting up with anger? Nay, you haven’t, have you?
Let me tell you this, a simple act of saying “awak ni bising la, boleh senyap tak sebab saye nak study?” will ease you from torturing yourself like this? It is not her who demotivated you, it is you who sabotaged yourself to study. I did have a problem back then when I could not focus on my book when I was in my room, so I headed to the library – it’s a solution to my problem, not just blaming others. So, again, it is you who need fixing. Fix your communication skill before attacking others with your uncharitable words. You, poor thing.
Another thing which I do not understand is that why waste time to publish your ‘artwork’ on the blog, if your ‘artwork’ only highlight your weaknesses? (Ya, I just wasted my time posting this, when I should be doing my critique essay) Your weaknesses which I concern the most is your language competence. If you’re not that proficient, don’t try to coin a new word for instance – bad + est = baddest. It hurts my eyes, knowing that you will teach English someday, but you don’t improve yourself.
This leads to another BIGGEST question mark from yours truly – WHY DID YOU BOTHER SETTING UP A BLOG TO EXPRESS YOUR RESENTMENT, when you can spend the night to improve your language competency? Or you can improve your rhetorical discourse that when people read your writing they will agree with you. Then only you can attract people to read.
Another advice from me is that why should you highlight on people’s negative sides, when I think you are the one who is negative. For example, you accuse your friend for being ‘a friend for benefit’. But then the truth is that you’re the one who’s taking advantage from her. It is not an accusation though, since I’ve been observing you for quite sometime. (If only I could record it) If she did take advantage on you, you should ask your self what benefit did she get from you? Is not that ‘a friend in need is a friend indeed’, is it? So you help her, you get pahala, but you ungkit-ungkit, you get nothing young lady.
I could spend all day elaborating what you did wrong. But then, your choice of being ‘you’ causes me a heartache. This writing is also not to attack you, but to make you see into the problems you created. Don’t just see, but look and digest it.
Just keep this in mind ” Be friend to a mirror and you will see a horror film” – that’s the film you just directed, and there is still time to change the plot. Kthanksbye.
